Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Tell all your girlfriends

I just had an email from a doctor friend and she asked me to pass it on to all my friends. Well, I don't like sending group emails so I will pass it on here.

Interesting.... we do it instinctively but now I guess this is the theory behind it all.
They teach it at  Stanford
 "I just finished taking  an evening class at Stanford. The last lecture was on the mind-body  connection-the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker (head  of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things  that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman whereas for a  woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her  relationships with her girlfriends. At first everyone laughed, but he was  serious.

Women connect with each other differently and  provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult  life experiences.  Physically this quality “girlfriend time" helps us to create  more serotonin-a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being.  Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf?Yes.  But their feelings?-rarely.  Women do it all of the time. We  share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health.  He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.

There's a tendency to think that when we are "exercising" we  are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with  friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged--not true. In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking! So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your  health! We are indeed very, very lucky. Sooooo let's toast to our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently it's very good for our  health."

The helpful comments on the previous post about insomnia are evidence of just how much support women friends give to one another. My friend has adopted a new slogan "Gossip saves lives." Pass it on to your girlfriends too.


  1. I can attest to the truth of needing girl friends. In the past four or five years, I've lost (mostly to relocation) most of my friends and have had difficulty finding new ones. Long distance friendships while good aren't the same.

    Truth be told, I haven't looked that hard even though I dearly miss the easy laughter of old friends.

  2. e
    You are right, it is the easy laughter, even when things are a bit grim, that only our girl friends share. You'll just have to get out there and find a few kindred spirits, remeber that it is good for you - it's official!

  3. I've returned to yoga, but the only kindred spirit there is a young (50ish) retired NYPD lieutenant with a bad back. He's about 6'4" -- massively muscled with a great sense of humor. We get along famously, but I don't think he could qualify as a GF.

    Although, he would be useful to have along on an outing. When I got into a yoga pose that I had a hard time coming out of, he merely leaned over, asked me to put my hand on his arm, and raised me to my feet -- then we both had a fit of the giggles.

  4. Fascinating ....oh the excuse for a good gossip :0) :0) :0) :0) :0)

  5. e
    The young man sounds as if he should be made an honorary girl friend and at 6'4" he probably would not be phased by the compliment!

    I am really impressed by the idea of yoga classes. If I could only stretch my days, I might get around to stretching my body.

  6. Val
    Yes, it is now a scientific fact: gossip is good for you!


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