You have the same habit of pointing out your flaws that my wife has. When anyone would come over she would clean like a mad-woman, then when they arrived she'd point out the places that she hadn't been able to clean. Not that anyone would have noticed. My wife could see invisible dirt ant dust.
Thank you, Duck. I'm really quite proud of myself for having completed the quilt. I got kicked out of needlework classes at school because I was so bad and only dared try again a couple of years ago.
I recognise what you say about self-critical women. It's a kind of nervousness, I think. I've always pointed out my faults and am always the first to apologise, whether guilty or not!
I've heard of the no apologies rule also, but I just don't think it's good advice. How many people are willing to apply the rule to others as well as themselves? Contrary to Wodehouse, the right kind of people do want apologies. Society would be a very unpleasant place without them.
Oh, now you have me in a tizzy! My oldest friend tells me don't apologise, one of my newest friends tell me to carry on. Not only am I an inveterate apologiser, I also hate making decisions! Send for the men in white coats.
Very harmonious!
ReplyDeleteHi Crinny: if you click on the picture, it will grow large and you will see all my mistakes and crooked stitches: the story of my life!
ReplyDeleteYou can always quilt for world peace.
ReplyDeleteYou have the same habit of pointing out your flaws that my wife has. When anyone would come over she would clean like a mad-woman, then when they arrived she'd point out the places that she hadn't been able to clean. Not that anyone would have noticed. My wife could see invisible dirt ant dust.
It's a lovely quilt.
Thank you, Duck. I'm really quite proud of myself for having completed the quilt. I got kicked out of needlework classes at school because I was so bad and only dared try again a couple of years ago.
ReplyDeleteI recognise what you say about self-critical women. It's a kind of nervousness, I think. I've always pointed out my faults and am always the first to apologise, whether guilty or not!
What mistakes? what flaws? when I enlarged the picture I saw triumph and light after a dark tunnel!
ReplyDeleteAnd another thing 'Never apologise, never explain'. Can't recall of hand who said that, but it was someone with a lot of sense.
ReplyDeleteGood advice, Crinny. Watch out everyone, I'm gonna toughen up!
ReplyDeleteI was annoyed at not being able to recall who said 'Never apologize...' so looked it up and this is what I found:
ReplyDelete"It is a good rule in life never to apologize. the right sort of people do not want apologies, and the wrong sort take a mean advantage of them"
P.G. Wodhouse. - Who else!
I've heard of the no apologies rule also, but I just don't think it's good advice. How many people are willing to apply the rule to others as well as themselves? Contrary to Wodehouse, the right kind of people do want apologies. Society would be a very unpleasant place without them.
ReplyDeleteOh, now you have me in a tizzy! My oldest friend tells me don't apologise, one of my newest friends tell me to carry on. Not only am I an inveterate apologiser, I also hate making decisions! Send for the men in white coats.
ReplyDeleteOf course there's a balance to these things. You don't want to overdo it, or underdo it.
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